Saturday, 19 May 2012

Life Lessons from The Beatles

It isn’t easy doing what you want. For a number of reasons, actually. For starters, every element in the universe seems to be working to stop you from doing that. Isn’t it always the case? You set out to buy chocolate ice cream, but when you reach the shop, it is shut. The next shop doesn’t have the flavour in stock and the shop after that is too far and you don’t have the means to get there. So, you have to settle for the next best thing.

In retrospect, it isn’t a very big deal, settling for the next best thing. In fact, you were pleasantly surprised with the other flavour. It made you rethink your chocolate-ice-cream-only policy. But, what if you really, REALLY, wanted chocolate ice cream? Deviating from the chocolate-ice-cream-only policy may be a sign of things to come. Or an evaluation of your life.

Let’s look at the chocolate-ice-cream-only policy as a sign of your perseverance. Judging from your experience with the other flavour, you don’t seem very keen on pursuing what you really want.

What DO you want? You did set out to buy chocolate ice cream. However, what did you REALLY want? Was it just ice cream or was it chocolate ice cream? You may have a policy but isn’t that limiting your potential for variety? What are your priorities? Set your priorities straight, you won’t have to make difficult decisions then, they say.

There comes a time in a man’s life, when he must let go. When he must throw caution to the wind and disregard his priorities. A time when it becomes near impossible to do what he really wants to do. It is a point where you must choose between what you want to do and what you must do. At this point in life, everybody knows what they HAVE to do.

Some make choices. Others, well, they let go.

Let It Be by The Beatles
When I find myself in times of trouble,
Mother Mary comes to me,
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be…

-  Dhaval Shethia

Tuesday, 8 May 2012

Little Things For Us To Ponder

Kramer: I got news for you: handicapped people, they don't even want to park there! They wanna be treated just like anybody else! That's why, those spaces are always empty.
George: He's right! It's the same thing with the feminists. You know, they want everything to be equal, everything! But when the check comes, where are they?
- Seinfeld

It’s quite true. If you want something, say it. Mention exactly what you want. There is nobody who can give you anything unless you ask for it. And you must ask for what you want and not what you think is ‘right’. Because, in the process, you don’t get what you want and later on you blame the other person for not giving you what you wanted. All you had to do, was, simply ask for what you really wanted.

It’s these little things.

Everybody has some apparently inconsequential, yet evidently monumental things. Everybody has their own little things. And everybody shares these with somebody. And that is somebody who they may talk to all the time or never.

It isn’t about the person. It isn’t the amount of time you spend, or the amount of subjects you discuss. It’s all about the little things.

For most, it is a person who is constantly present. This is a person they like to have around all the time. This is probably the most common one. The problem starts when for one of them the other one does not remain, in no clich├ęd sense of the word, ‘the one’.

The person should merely be a medium. The point isn’t about sharing all eternity with somebody. It is about sharing eternal ideas through the medium. The medium may only be momentary, say, you get drunk and talk about little things with the bartender and you’ve come out of it gaining happiness, you’ve had a meaningful exchange. However, if you’ve spent 20 years with somebody and at the end of it, you’re all but sad, well?

It would probably be perfect to have the same person you talk about little things with for your lifetime. But, it doesn’t happen. By the end of it, it is only ‘good’. It seems ‘great’ because nobody else you know seems to be near ‘good’ after all this time.

You didn’t give great a try.

Little things.

-  Dhaval Shethia.