Tuesday, 8 May 2012

Little Things For Us To Ponder

Kramer: I got news for you: handicapped people, they don't even want to park there! They wanna be treated just like anybody else! That's why, those spaces are always empty.
George: He's right! It's the same thing with the feminists. You know, they want everything to be equal, everything! But when the check comes, where are they?
- Seinfeld

It’s quite true. If you want something, say it. Mention exactly what you want. There is nobody who can give you anything unless you ask for it. And you must ask for what you want and not what you think is ‘right’. Because, in the process, you don’t get what you want and later on you blame the other person for not giving you what you wanted. All you had to do, was, simply ask for what you really wanted.

It’s these little things.

Everybody has some apparently inconsequential, yet evidently monumental things. Everybody has their own little things. And everybody shares these with somebody. And that is somebody who they may talk to all the time or never.

It isn’t about the person. It isn’t the amount of time you spend, or the amount of subjects you discuss. It’s all about the little things.

For most, it is a person who is constantly present. This is a person they like to have around all the time. This is probably the most common one. The problem starts when for one of them the other one does not remain, in no clich├ęd sense of the word, ‘the one’.

The person should merely be a medium. The point isn’t about sharing all eternity with somebody. It is about sharing eternal ideas through the medium. The medium may only be momentary, say, you get drunk and talk about little things with the bartender and you’ve come out of it gaining happiness, you’ve had a meaningful exchange. However, if you’ve spent 20 years with somebody and at the end of it, you’re all but sad, well?

It would probably be perfect to have the same person you talk about little things with for your lifetime. But, it doesn’t happen. By the end of it, it is only ‘good’. It seems ‘great’ because nobody else you know seems to be near ‘good’ after all this time.

You didn’t give great a try.

Little things.

-  Dhaval Shethia.


  1. So true. If only we could all be a little more vocal about our needs, it would have been so much simpler. But instead of that, all we do is "expect" people to 'just know'. That's not right. That's expecting too much.